Le fait d'être rejeté par la société en raison de son apparence ne peut surprendre personne. Mais pour certains cela devient une raison pour se renfermer et pour les autres cela sert de source d'inspiration. Ainsi est l'histoire de Harnaam Kaur, la plus jeune femme à barbe du monde.
Life hit me like a tonne of bricks and I had to deal with the loss of a loved one. It has been hard, difficult, sorrowful and hugely upsetting. There is no doubt that after losing such a wonderful soul I had huge anxiety and stresses on my head which led me to become very sad and depressed! 'Death is a part of life,' I hear this all the time, but hearing this and experiencing it is totally different; especially if this is the first time that you have experience the loss of a loved one for the first time. I have managed to cope in various ways, and I hope that anyone who is going through the same thing as me can read the methods that I use and find some comfort and support. 1. I give my self points for just waking up in the morning! I have started to take pride in the smallest things that I do during the day I.e dressing myself, tying my turban, applying my make up! The smallest of tasks that I do, I give myself credit for. 2. I use the happy memories of the loved one that I have lost, and continuously think about it! It will cheer you up and remind you of all the good times. There is nothing wrong with holding on to memories, cherish the good ones that make you smile. 3. Do something different each day whether it's being different with what you eat, or what you wear! Maybe watch a tv show that you don't normally watch it listen to a kind of song that you normally wouldn't be to your taste. Maybe take a stroll through your neighbourhood but take a different route. Doing things differently each day will stop you getting depressed. I feel that doing the same thing over and over or having the same routine just gets me more depressed. 4. Treat yourself, go shopping, but yourself a cute outfit! I was recently kindly sent make up from Illamasqua which made me smile. Buy yourselves a pair of cute shoes or spend a day in the spa! Relax yourself! 5. Make a memory book full of positive pictures of your loved one and add to it; maybe even allow your family to add to it too! It could be something you go to! 6. Know that it's okay to grieve and not do so well on some days,but remember that there is always light even amongst the darkness! X —@harnaamkaur
Depuis son enfance, Mme Kaur souffre du syndrome de Stein-Leventhal (ovaires polykistiques), ce qui provoque une croissance incontrôlable des poils faciaux. Pendant toute son enfance, Mme Kaur vivait dans l'angoisse et a passé des années à cacher son "défaut" à l'aide d'épilations douloureuses qu'elle réalisait trois fois par semaines.
This is my first ever #throwbackthursday…. such a young soul, so innocent at heart…i didnt realise you would rip me apart! I trembled with fear but you didnt care, I was only a body to you, my cry you didnt hear! I fucked up i kept quiet, and till this day i remember, how you took me from my childhood…so tender!……i cant write any more!! 😯
Mais elle a décidé de s'accepter enfin et de faire la paix avec son corps.
A short letter i wrote to my body x Dear body, To some you are disgusting, vile and horrible to look at. To some you are too fat, too chubby and too big. To some you have many imperfections such as stretch marks, hair, acanthosis nigricans, vitiligo and scars. Dear body, to me you are my everything, you give my heart a place to live, you hold my spirit my soul my aura. You hold my inner most deepest feelings of love and affection. You keep me warm during the winter and cool during the summer. DEAR BODY! You are marked with the most scars, you have patches of the most amazing colours, you are jeweled with the most feminine hair! Dear body…most people hate you, but I LOVE YOU, with all of sweetest heart that you have kept inside of me! Dear body you are mine x #harnaamkaur #effyourstandards #effyourbeautystandards #beardedwoman #beardedlady #bodyconfidence #bodylove #loveyourbeard #loveyourbody #feminism #bodyconfidenceactivist #antibullyingactivist #kezcoo
Elle a publié une lettre où elle s'adresse à son corps et s'excuse auprès de lui pour lui avoir causé tant de mal lorsqu'elle essayait de se "battre" contre sa nature.
Elle a ensuite décidé de saisir sa chance en tant que mannequin pour l'Urban Bridesmaid Photography.
Walking past my haters like……💃🏽💃🏽✌🏾️✌🏾💪🏾💪🏾👌🏾👌🏾💯💯😎😎 I dedicate this post to my bullies! Thank you all! Warning: Content below is personal and may be emotionally triggering for some readers! Always seek help if you or someone you know is going through any kind of abuse! I remember being laughed at everyday in school by many people from all year groups! Everyday in school was dooms day for me! I remember crying my eyes out in the toilets wishing the torment would stop! No one helped! I remember the teachers listening to my ordeals, they promised a lot but delivered so little! I remember sitting in the quiet rooms looking down at my bloodied arms and crying my eyes out! People would walk by, look through the door window an carrying on with their day! Thank you for not coming in to lend a helping hand! I remember sitting in the Library and writing suicide notes, which I printed out with the hope that someone would read it. Someone did and the bitches laughed! Cry for help? I think so! I remember walking by tables and the teenagers sitting at the tables would stab me with their pens! I remember showing the teachers my open wounds! Thank you for not helping! I remember tying to overdose on painkillers in the girls toilets, and then vomiting them out! I was in a lot of pain! The of course I told the teachers! Did they help? NO!!! I remember beating beaten, touched in uncomfortable places and being made to feel embarrassed in front of the class! I remember being cornered, the school footballers would then take a few footballs and boot them at me with all their strength! I was so scared, and I would cry out in pain! Of course my cries would've been heard! But did anyone help? NO!! I remember not attending trips as i was scared of being bullied by students from other school! It has happened the few times I attended school trips! I remember my books,pens and pencil cases being thrown out of the window on the second floor during the first day of school! I thank my bullies for throwing me to the ground which allowed me to stand up taller and stronger! When someone has been beaten down, the only way is up!This is me walking past my haters
Elle a débuté sur les podiums à l'ouverture de la Marianna Harutunian Royal Fashion Day show en mars, en portant son turban Sikh traditionnel, une robe couleur bleu-marine et des chaussures noires à talons. Cette année, la jeune femme, qui habite à Slough dans le comté de Berkshire en Angleterre, avait rejoint la Fête de Tess effyourbeautystandards des super modèles de grande taille qui vise à que les femmes n'aient pas honte de leurs corps.
I can now proudly announce that I am a Guiness world record book holder! I have been wanting to publish this news for absolutely ages, but I had to keep things under wrap until the booked launched (today). I am super proud to hold this record, the inner child in me is so pleased. I grew up reading this book, I even tried breaking some of my own records wanting to be in this book. It is amazing to be valued and celebrated being a Bearded Lady. I am proud to hold this amazing record 🌺 I hope those who read or see my record can take away positivity, inspiration and realise that no matter who you are or what you look like, you are officially amazing! I present to you my record as 'The youngest women with a full beard' Thank you to my friends @drewmula and @notblackbutbrown for being there during this photoshoot, when this record was made! I love and adore you both ❤️❤️ Thank you to everyone who has supported my journey! Thank you @guinnessworldrecords
Elle a ainsi été rajoutée dans la nouvelle édition du Livre Guinness des records en tant que plus jeune femme à barbe: son record a été enregistré lorsqu'elle avait 24 ans et 282 jours, alors que sa barbe était de 15 cm.
"J'ai grandi en regardant America's next top model et j'ai adoré Tyra Banks de tout mon cœur", a écrit Mme Kaur après son début sur les podiums."J'ai toujours voulu être comme les mannequins, donc je me souviens que j'ai toujours copié leur démarche et leur manière de poser. J'ai grandi en entendant que j'étais trop grosse, trop laide et dégoûtante pour devenir mannequin. Je regardais des mannequins et je me disais que je ne pourrais jamais faire ce qu'elles font".
"Je suis trop fière d'avoir eu ce record, l'enfant à l'intérieur de moi est tellement contente", a affirmé Mme Kaur commentant la sortie de la nouvelle édition du Livre Guinness des records. Et de poursuivre:
"J'espère que ceux qui liront ce livre ou verront mon record, pourront y trouver du positif, de l'inspiration et comprendre que peu importe qui tu es ou à quoi tu ressembles, tu es officiellement magnifique!".